I’m excited for the success of others. There needs to be more people doing good in the world – more nutritionist, more life coaches, more people selling health food products, more people helping others achieve health and vitality in their lives and more people spreading positive messages.
This is one of my focuses in the coming months — be genuinely excited for other people’s success. I started recognizing feelings of jealousy in my life in regards to other people having success. I started feeling really envious of people who were launching new products or new offers on their sites or starting podcasts or even doing Facebook Lives. I found myself feeling feelings of insecurity and self-doubt. Why couldn’t I just do what they do? Be bold. Be fearless.
It feels awful to feel envious of others and it feels even worse to be mad at yourself for having fear and self doubt, so I immediately knew I needed to figure out why I was feeling these feelings and what I can do to change them.
Once I started looking into it, I realized I REALLY need to quickly stop myself from having these thoughts. One, because it doesn’t feel good, and two, because it’s halting me from having my own successes in my life.
Why is it halting me?
Because I’m giving attention to the lack or absence of my desires. By being jealous of what others have, or have done in their businesses and being mad at myself for not doing what I know I am capable of doing, I’m thinking about lack. My emotions are stemming from annoyed to jealous to insecure. These feelings and this thinking won’t bring me what I want.
Here’s the thing:
- You bring into your life whatever you are predominately thinking about
- What you are thinking about must line up with your desires in order for you to get what you want
According to Esther Hicks, author of one of my favorite books, Ask and It Is Given, “Every thought, every idea, every Being every thing, is vibrational, so when you focus your attention on something, even for a short period of time, the vibration of your Being begins to reflect the vibration of that which you are giving your attention to. The more you think about it, the more you vibrate like it; the more you vibrate like it; the more of that which is like it is attracted to you.”
Therefore, you definitely don’t want to be thinking about lack. And this is what happens when you are envious of other people’s successes. Yikes, I must stop this!
So here’s what I’ve decided I’m going to do. I’m going to strive to be appreciative of the people whose success I was previously envious of. I’m not going to look at them as having something that I want or having done something that I want to do, but instead impressed with their ability to get what they have and do what they’ve done. Their success means I can have that success too! I can do it, we’re all seriously just human beings with the same worries and fears. I’m going to be excited for what they are bringing to the world, especially if its in the spiritual and wellness space, we need so much more of that. What they are bringing is changing the world and people are learning from what they are bringing. These are both positives. I’m happy they are having success. I can’t wait for mine to come to.
Here’s some initial thoughts that come to mind.
- They didn’t let fear or self-doubt or perfectionism hold them back from launching their business. I admire that, and can learn from people like that. I am grateful they exist, so I can learn form them.
- I look at the people who have launched online courses, wellness or coaching businesses and say they’ve gone from nothing to making six, even seven-figures. That’s seriously awesome, and gives me hope that I can do the same. I’m excited because if they did it, I can!
- I am grateful for people like Gabby Bernstein and Kris Carr who have made health and wellness and spirituality a “cool” thing. They have raised awareness of the importance of spiritual practices and healthy eating and living.
- I am grateful for Tony Robbins who has helped make life coaching a mainstream term, and given many people the desire to have a coach.
- I am grateful for Guru Jagat who has significantly helped increase awareness of Kundalini Yoga and its massive benefits. She, like Gabby and Kris, has made the practice “cool” in the eyes of many and therefore increased the desire for people to practice it.
When you are appreciative/being grateful, you are planning your future for more of what you like (are grateful for) in your life. You likely feel good, positive and contentment when you are being grateful for the good in your life.
When you are thinking about lack or absence of having something you are likely feeling emotions such as worry, discouragement, insecurity, jealousy or even depression. You are planning your future for more lack/things you don’t want.
I encourage you to jump on this being excited for other people’s successes train with me. I know it will help us see more of what we want in our lives. I’ll keep you updated on my progress with bringing this into my life.
Glow & Flow,