I’m reading Gabby Bernstein’s, The Universe Has Your Back book. So many messages in the book are resonating with me, but there’s one in particular I keep thinking about and have already found myself applying in my life. That is – restoring my fear back to love. In the book, Gabby says, “The miracle isn’t how well we avoid fear; the miracle is how quickly we return to love.”
She says that the goal isn’t to avoid fear because fear will never go away all together. The goal, instead, is to not believe in fear.
This makes so much sense. The aim isn’t to run from fear or try to erase it from your life — that’s a mighty hard, if not impossible, task. The goal instead is to return to love when you feel that fear.
For example, you’re in a situation surrounded by someone negative, judging or condescending. You find yourself fearful or concerned of what they are thinking or even becoming negative yourself because you are in their presence. If you apply this lesson – return fear back to love, you’ll be able to feel the fear but immediately recognize that feeling and turn to love. When you turn to love, you’ll feel yourself calm down, maybe even smile and not react defensively, harshly or cruelly to what that person is saying. You won’t let that person’s negativity or judgements affect you. Instead, you’ll be in your own little love bubble. Additionally, you’ll actually grow in this situation because you’ll recognize the power you have to shift BACK TO LOVE!
Being in situations when fear arises is actually a great test of where you are in your spiritual practice. Challenging situations can help you understand where you stand – maybe you need to do a bit more spiritual connection work to get to a place where it’s easier to return to love when fear arises.
My goal is to pay more attention to when fear is arising and recognize it. Just this morning, I had a fear instance. I felt overwhelmed with the amount on my plate. My mind started telling me all sorts of things – you’re so confused with what you want, you’re never going to launch your product because you have to do this and that and all sorts of other things. I recognized the fear and felt anxiety creeping in. Immediately, I remembered, “return to love,” “trust the universe.” I smiled, did a few yoga poses, and decided to write this. I made the decision to return to love and I feel so much more confident and productive because of it. The thing is fear often halts us from moving forward. It actually prevents us from getting a lot of work done or actually doing what we want to be doing. Fear hinders our progress, while love jolts it forward.
I urge you to give “returning to love” a shot. Start trying to recognize the fear-based stories in your head. Understand that‘s fear. It’s not real, just your mind playing games. Make the decision to return to love. Smile and recognize you’ve just transitioned from fear to love, and keep it up!
Glow & Flow,